The Third Time/Season Is (Supposedly) The Charm

Well hello there! Assuming anyone is still interested in reading my random ramblings on the subject of the Vampire Diaries, I thought this would be a good time for it, given that tonight is the Season 3 premiere.

But I have to be honest. For most of the summer hiatus, I have been totally disconnected from the TVD fanbase. There’s a couple reasons for that – divisions within the fandom, the hysteria over Ian/Nina and most of all, a twisted and delayed reaction to the events of season 2.

Oh and also this man took over my life.

Yes, I am addicted and will seize on any excuse for an ASkars pic spam.  But back on topic. You wouldn’t know it by reading my recap of the last two episodes of Season 2 – you know, those ones where I was all gooey and optimistic about where Damon and Elena are headed? – but I was actually deeply wounded and traumatized by a lot of what happened last season.

My faith in JP/KW which was really strong in season one and even in the beginning of S2 has been shaken to its core.  I’m not sure I trust them the way that I used to. The main reason for that is that as much as I wish it was, TVD is not the Damon & Elena show. If it was, I wouldn’t ever have to worry about justice not being done to their characters. As it is, for better or worse, Damon and Elena’s relationship, such as it is, can’t be separated – plot wise – from Stefan.

And the thing is that I used to be one of those D/E fans that thought Stefan had layers and really wished that the show would explore them. I consistently argued that a more dimensional Stefan would make for better storytelling all around including for Damon and Elena.

That’s still true. I think it will. Problem is, I no longer care. I no longer care because Stefan crossed lines for me in S2 that he can’t ever uncross. I recognize that he “sacrificed” himself for Damon (though I wonder if a small part of him wasn’t relieved to have a really good excuse to stop fighting his nature so damn hard) but it’s not enough.

I can’t stress enough that this is personal. It’s not about Stefan being justified in his treatment of Damon or vice versa. Fans of each brother can argue their case and make legitmate points. It’s just that I, personally, reached my limit and I no longer care whether what he feels  is justified or not or whether he has reasons for why the way he is.

In true and primal mama bear fashion, all I know is that he has – repeatedly – hurt someone that I care about. He has undermined and disparaged Damon time and again. He’s been self righteous and condescending and on occasion, cruel.

Damon’s no saint. I’m not arguing that and I’m not claiming to be rational. All I’m saying is, when it’s about taking sides, I choose Damon. That simple.

Given that, you can imagine my nerves about this upcoming Ripper story line. The show has consistently shied away from following through on the many, many, MANY teases about Stefan’s dark side. We won’t know until we see it, whether this time will be any different.

But that’s a concern for a little bit later down the line. What’s really worrying me right now is how much damage they can or will inflict on Elena’s character development as the Ripper stuff progresses.

I already find it suspect that Elena can grit her teeth and get on with life after losing Jenna and John but Stefan leaves and she starts falling apart and “letting life pass her by” to quote Caroline. There’s the whole accumulation argument but it doesn’t wash with me. I would have needed to see Elena in a different head space after the Sacrifice to be able to accept that.

I don’t want Elena to be the girl who loses the plot entirely because her boyfriend is gone. More to the point, I distinctly recall Season 1 Elena saying that she didn’t want to be that girl either.

I want to see fierce, independent Elena stage a come back.

My other concern is obviously how Damon and Elena’s relationship progresses. The clip released the other day was reassuring but I’m not getting carried away. Ultimately, I don’t doubt that they’ll get closer but I think it’s what happens after that that has me tied up in knots.

I saw this on True Blood with Eric and Sookie. Ultimately, Damon and Elena’s idyll here is temporary because Stefan will eventually come back to his so called senses. Now, personally, I think Stefan’s dark side is WAY worse than Damon’s. But Elena being Elena it’s plausible (if not palatable) that she could find a way to work through that and give Stefan a second chance.

And me…I’m not sure if I would survive that. To say nothing of what Damon might do. It would be one thing if it was a really far fetched scenario but it’s actually not.

I want desperately to be able to enjoy the moments Damon & Elena will share this season but I am scared to.  The words “Stefan, it’s always going to be Stefan” haunt me and  literally make my skin crawl and my blood run cold at this point.

The weird thing is, I don’t actually think Elena will choose Stefan in the end. If she does decide to be with one of the two brothers, I’m positive it’ll be Damon.

And yet, the idea of watching Damon have his heart shattered all over again in the meanwhile – and believe you me, if Elena goes back to Stefan, even if it’s just for a while, Damon will be devastated in ways that he can’t even imagine – holds no appeal.

I’ve never been so invested in a fictional character. Writing him a lot and often probably hasn’t helped because I really do feel like Damon and Elena are part of me now.

I kept saying over summer that maybe I’d be excited when the show started back but I’m not. Maybe I’ll get over my fear/dread as the season goes on.

And if not at least I’ll have this :


Inside The (TVD) Actor’s Studio

Well, it’s not really the actor’s studio but I’m a little bored and I have been very DEpressed so to counter that I thought I could have a little fun and y’all can too with the famous questionnaire that was conceived by Bernard Pivot and that James Lipton asks his guests at the end of every Actor’s Studio Episode.

Here are the questions and my answers. Leave yours in the comments!

1. What is your favorite word? DEstiny

2. What is your least favorite word? Epic

3. What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally? The idea that love laws can be broken and those who have been hurt can be healed when the right person loves them the way they need to be loved.

4. What turns you off? Other people trying to think for me or impose their beliefs on me.

5. What is your favorite curse word? Cazzo

6. What sound or noise do you love? Ian Somerhalder’s voice. Duh. And randomly, I also think it’s super cute the way he constantly says “by virtue of the fact”. Yes, I’m a dork to have even noticed that.

7. What sound or noise to you hate? Anyone made by one of those rabid fleabags. Extra hate if the fleabag in question is Jules.

8. What profession other than your own would you like to attempt? Damon Salvatore’s personal bartender.

9. What profession would you not like to do? Stefan Salvatore’s nutritionist.

10. If Heaven does exist what would you like to hear God say when you get to the Pearly gates? Damon and Elena are two halves of the same soul. I should know. I made them.

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A journey of 1000 miles starts with one step

The name of the blog says it all. It’s about Damon, Elena and Love. Their love to be more specific; what it is, what it’s not, what it has been and what it will be. They’ve come far but the road ahead of them is still long. This blog will be around to chronicle the journey and savor the pitstops.

I’m not a big fan of the books so all of my discussion, analysis and random ramblings are based on Damon and Elena’s relationship in the CW TV version.

I don’t own anything or anyone; that goes without saying. This blog is for entertainment purposes only.

A special shout out to my D/E Circle peeps and thanks to TD for the awesome banners. This blog is for you guys. 🙂