Because At The End of The Day…They’re Family

So this is really just a fly by post. TVD and I are still on a break  and I am still head over heels for ASkars but as I promised, I have been watching the occasional D/E scene on YouTube and after last night, I had a couple of observations to make. 😛

I only watched the last scene so I’m not really analyzing it in the context of anything else that’s happened in S3, only what I know about these two characters from S1 &2. What struck me the most, aside from the intimacy – seriously, this has ALWAYS been my favorite word to describe Damon and Elena’s relationship – was the moment where Elena says that Stefan will be saved not because he loves her, but because he loves Damon. Damon’s reaction to that is what got me to actually write this post. I think he was genuinely surprised by what she said and immediately you see him disappear inside himself but not in a negative way, rather in a reflective one.

I think that Damon honestly doubts that Stefan loves him. I think that over many years (probably since the whole Katherine getting taken by Giuseppe debacle in 1864) Damon has consistently chalked up any remotely nice thing Stefan does for him to Stefan’s inability to handle guilt; guilt over things he did, things he didn’t do, the sky being blue etc. Even the devil’s bargain with Klaus, I can see Damon perceiving as something from Stefan not wanting to feel guilty because he didn’t life a finger to save his brother. Mind you, I’m not saying that this is Stefan’s ACTUAL motivation, just that I can see Damon looking at it that way.

Now, all of a sudden he has Elena – who is basically the person he trusts most in the world at this point – telling him that Stefan loves him more than he loves her. Because it’s Elena, he can’t dismiss it out of hand and I think that’s important. Regardless of my personal feelings for Stefan (and honestly, none of them are pleasant) his approval and his affection is something that Damon has longed for for a long time. Yes, Damon still has to travel the path of being a better man for himself first and foremost, but I’ve always said that he deserves to have people support him in that. Truly believing that his brother does love him is going to help rather than hinder his development.

And as for Miss Gilbert. I was smiling at my computer screen as she described Rebekah and literally saying out loud, “Wow, remind you of anyone?” She talked about the most important bond being between family and she’s right. But family isn’t just about blood. It’s about who you love and how you love them. It’s about being ready and willing to do anything you can to protect them, it’s about wanting the best for them and always being there no matter what. Damon and Elena have been that to each other for so long now that I don’t see how anyone could argue that these two aren’t each others family.

The connection they have exists on so many levels. It’s friendship, it’s love, it’s family, eventually it’ll be lovers. But all those things are manifestations of the fact that they fit together in every way that it’s possible for two people to fit and this entire scene managed to encapsulate all of those nuances which is no small feat. Part of what makes Damon and Elena’s realtionship real is how complicated and three dimensional it is. That’s also what makes it so damn beautiful.

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5 Comments

  1. Ciara, *sniffles* I love your posts! Always.

  2. Oh Ciara, How I miss reading your posts. You have the strongest insight into the Delena relationship. Maybe after the hiatus you will come back. This really is a good Delena season, everything we have been wanting. A beautiful slow build up to a strong, trusting, lasting relationship between Damon & Elena. No matter what happens with Stefan, DE have developed into something unbreakable at this point. It is truly blissful to watch.

  3. I am so sad you aren’t reviewing each ep, your reviews were the ones I regarded above all
    Others. Wish you’d try. You were really good at them.
    I know you love them, but try not to feel so bad? I used to do that with spuffy until for the sake of my mental health I had to not care so much. I’m telling you what i told myself when i wanted to kill buffy for not getting it. They’re just characters.
    And you’re really good at the psychoanalysis.
    I know Damon misses you.
    Love,
    Me.

  4. please come back. I miss you. I really do. Please watch episode 10 its so monumental in relation to delena…. Please? I NEED an analysis over what finally hapened

  5. Have missed these posts so much. These past months I have been *forced* to find other recaps, and I agree they just don’t have the same level of insight into the DE relationship.

    I have so missed your guidance, and counsel on these two.

    M


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